This paradigm goes right along with the archetypes of the dysfunctional family I wrote about before. You can see that post here.
However, the Victim Triangle, or better known as the Victim Paradigm is a more concentrated idea of what it's like to get caught in something so dysfunctional it just seems to keep rotating and feels as if there's no way out, or no escape from the dysfunction.
So there's three basic roles here and they seem to be recycled or just kinda circulate within the same dynamic. See the picture below, it explains it all. The important part is that the persecutor and the rescuer always end up to be the same individual. That's why there's a victim. The victim seems to forget about all the victimization done by the persecutor at the smallest act of rescuing.
The best option is to get the victim out of the situation and build awareness that the persecutor will be back around with a hero/rescuer act on and to build up the victims strength so she/he/it doesn't fall back into the victim paradigm. The main idea here is that the hero/rescuer is a temporary pleasure. That's all, that's it. They go right back to their persecuting ways as soon as they are comfortable enough to do so.
More to come on this another day. Please e-mail at MsThingGoneWild@outlook.com if you would like to collaborate on any of my posts :).
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